DIARY OF THAT FEMALE LAW STUDENT

Of recent, there has been lots of drama as regarding the high rates of divorce in "developed countries" and funny enough this trend is slowly seeping through into our "developing" countries including yours most beloved. However we are still learners at this divorce thing cos mere looking at our Marriage Act and Matrimonial Causes Act for the procedure for annulments or nullification or judicial separation, no one in his right mind especially the lily- livered ones would go through that long process so they'll rather stay in a bad marriage. This by the way is a story for another day.
Today I'll give you two basic scenarios which should convey my debatable opinions as to one of the causes of marriages and relationships failure in Nigeria. Here goes my lame attempt:
Mama Bonboy and Papa Bonboy have been married for 25 years. They have 9 children who live, school and work from their 2 room rented apartment in Mafoluku, Oshodi, Lagos. All through his growing years, Bonboy has watched his parents quarrel, make up, debate etc(call it whatever you want). His idea of an ideal marriage is one of ups and downs. He became a lecturer in 2010. He met Chi in 2012 and they got married in 2013. In 2014, they had major issues and Chi has decided to opt out of the marriage.
Chief Prof Benson and Hon. Dr Helen are parents to Chi, they have been married for 20 years, Chi is their only offspring(notice my use of the word "offspring"… yels). They live in their private mansion in Parkview estate, Ikoyi, Lagos. While growing up, Chi has watched her parents "happily" married. They have never quarrelled for one day in her presence. That's her idea of her ideal marriage or relationship, if it doesn't work that way, you waka.
The fact is our ideas of marriage and relationship and infact life differs. To some, there is no perfect person, to others, there is but that is none of my business. As I continued my musings today, I realized that our background influences our choices. Our choices influence our life decisions. Our life decisions influence our future and as for many of us that don't realize it, our future affects the generations after us. We can't always change our background but we sure can influence our future. Okay, this is just me rambling on and on with no head or tail so I'll just shut up now. Astalavista hunaes…
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